I’m sorry I didn’t read your whole OP. I’m probably like most people who just don’t have the attention span. I also thought I’d just start with a comment about that one incident. Your friend said they were out at a bar/pub when you texted, so it would be understood they weren’t going to closely read your long text and put much thought into it at that time.

I do have a friend who texts long, complicated messages. I’m sorry to admit, I sometimes scan over them and respond briefly like your friend did. I care about this friend very much, but just don’t have the patience for the long text. I’d prefer she call, but she may have social anxiety and that explains why she does this.

I can relate to what you said in a later post here, to having someone be invalidating, intentionally oppositional, seemingly to everything you say. Are they a good friend? If you want to explore that more, you can give more information about it and look at what’s happening there.

We’re just peers in this forum focused on mental health and relationship issues, but open to listening and trying to be helpful.