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Old Sep 06, 2023, 04:54 AM
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Originally Posted by divine1966 View Post
I didn’t think he was from the same group?

I do agree about yet another unavailable man. It doesn’t matter what makes these men unavailable, but they all are one way or the other. Attraction to them is strong. I swear I spent a life time attracted to unavailable men. They don’t even have to be unsuitable. They could be upstanding citizens. Yet unavailable.

It’s hard to break the cycle. I don’t even think we can break attraction pattern but we could become more aware of red flags and bail before you are too deep into it and start suffering. Dude doesn’t call and doesn’t want to see me but occasionally invites me to public events. Is it enough for me? If yes, continue. If not, bye Felicia. Done. Move on
It is hard to break. I don't have other dating options in front of me right now, and I'm seeing how I am gluing myself to my one and only option, this unavailable guy.

I guess I really do want a relationship, is the bottom line. I've been on my own for almost a year now. We separated last Oct. I have dated a few people very casually. I am ready for something more. I said I wanted to create my own life first, and I am creating one. I have made a few new friends over the last year. I've traveled to a lot of places on my own during the last year. I miss having a partner. I am happy on my own, but I prefer to have a partner to share life with.
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