As divine said, there aren't any good options available right now dating-wise. I would also add that although you have been "single" for almost a year, most of the year has been filled with drama with the ex-husband, Jay, looking for work, getting work, and now that those things are over I feel a very distinct sense that you are looking for something to dwell on or be involved in so your mind is occupied.

How about not dating anyone for another year? This is the first stable time you've had in your life in years. Is that an uncomfortable feeling for you? As I recall, when the ex-husband and the money, Jay was dwindling down or even over, you found yourself involved in the drama at the music venue with the bartender and her ex-boyfriend, which wasn't even about your life. Try 6 months of PEACE. No drama. Then go another 6 months.