I sometimes dated only because I was bored or lonely or had to much free time on my hands. Not because I’ve met such a wonderful relationship prospect. Was never a good idea.

And molinit is right, although technically speaking you were single, you really weren’t in a true sense as there were casual encounters, dating, attempts of dating etc Truly single would be “no men”. I had a therapist after my long term relationship who said I should have no men for a year. I didn’t listen. What a disaster that was.