I must agree with SeptemberMorn. While we may not be able to control the feelings we have, we DO however have the ability to decide what we are going to do with these feelings. And there are really only 2 choices. Accept the feelings and live in misery... not my idea of a good life. Or we can chose to seek out the advise of a therapist, councelor, or other qualified doc and learn the skills to move past our problems and take back our lives. I chose the second one. Just my 2 cents. And BTW, the bickering and snipping and lashing out that DolfinGirl was trying to address is happening in this very thread.

ryan