I've just caught up on the thread and I have to agree it's probably a good idea to just be celibate for a while. I've noticed with female friends who are attractive and get attention from men that it's very hard to resist - for reassurance, desire, loneliness, and distraction. But it often leads to emotional entanglement even if there is no sex involved. And of course the challenge is not to fall for the smooth talker, because those are the guys that approach attractive, sexy women. They can be pushy, in a charming way, and it makes you feel like there is a connection.


I guess I've been "lucky" as a less attractive woman, because those guys never approached me. In fact I've seen the scorn on their faces just looking at me (revealing their true colors). I'm sure someone like Jay wouldn't have even spoken to me. If a man is friendly to me, he's usually a decent person. Or unattractive himself - but the jerky ones think they deserve a hot girlfriend regardless of how they look themselves.


So I don't know how to advise you, but maybe if you're used to wearing makeup or sexy clothes, skip them and get less attention for a while. Anyone who does talk to you is more likely to be a quality person. And being celibate for a while is a great way to develop the confidence that you can go solo in the world, hence less vulnerability to jerks. You are a quality human being and you deserve a good, loyal man.