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Originally Posted by ZenZeta
Thanks for all the responses everyone.
I did attempt to have a 1:1 meeting with my manager (which is hard because she dominates the meeting with small talk) and explain that I am a private person that believes in authentic, genuine relationships, and that I am challenged by feeling "forced" to connect with coworkers I don't really know.
I reminded her that I have only been with the team for a month and that I am willing to PROFESSIONALLY get to know my co-workers but may never "bond" with them on a personal level. I don't "bond" outside of work either.
I'm not sure if I was heard or not, but I am already starting to look for something else (sadly). The whole "cultural" fit is coming into play and she stated that
"At the end of the day, being liked is better than being efficient".
I may have to go back to free lancing (and figure out the health insurance piece). I just can't deal with this type of pressure. Sigh....
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What a disappointing response to valid points. Unfortunately, because what these people are asking you to be is well beyond what a normal job entails and they are essentially saying they value you putting on a "fake" persona rather than having a professional work-focused employee, this is probably going to end up with you finding a position elsewhere or adopting the fake social butterfly role in order to fit in/have any success moving around within the company.
I've been in this position before - it's hard. Once my boss actually "required" me to go on a department canoe trip for a day (a Saturday, not a day we worked). and I left the job shortly after that because it was clear that wouldn't be the last non-work activity they would demand of me.