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Originally Posted by SpaghettiLegs
I'm 50 and my life has also been ruled by social phobia since my earliest memories. From a young age I used alcohol to socialise which worked on a superficial level, I'm guessing you don't plan on becoming an alcoholic in your fifties though. Most people make friends through work, hobbies, church, volunteering, sport? Maybe joining a walking group, that always seems like a relatively easy option. Painting or some other craft so you can choose to chat or not.
I definitely think it's possible if you want it but you'd have to really find the courage within to start and importantly to maintain your efforts. You certainly come across as a very warm, kind and positive person so it's hard to imagine that you are having to deal with this. I think you should make a plan to perform one, two of three actions a day that would bring you closer to your goal.
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I didn’t know you had the same problem as me. I give you a hug because it’s not easy to live with this. I found very hard to go through school and university, and of course at my profession.
Yes, the truth is that I’m very scared. I had the opportunity to join a group of friends at university and as fast as we get closer, I began to distance myself because I simply felt that I didn’t deserve it. Isn’t it cruel? At work, it happened to me the same.
All the options you gave to me are fantastic ways to meet people.
Now that I progress in one to one communication I would like to try it with a group. A small one.
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