I was thinking about this today. I'm not sure the "I'm horny" argument is a good reason to have sex with guys who are virtually strangers. It's dangerous emotionally and physically. And humans are always horny. So, if you meet the guy who is actually right for you, you could waste the opportunity to really get to know him. Because yes, there's still a stigma for both men and women (but especially women) who have casual sex. Especially for the older generation. People see it (especially if you're part of a community) and think well, that's what she's looking for. She's not interested in a relationship, she's the "fun girl."


I also believe that if you have sex too early in a relationship, it limits the relationship and the buildup to intimacy. If you hold off and go to movies and art galleries and plays and parties and carnivals (as I did when dating my husband), it's fun and romantic and sweet. Whereas once you start having sex, it becomes about meeting for sex. That's the end goal of every date. It's just a different way of being with someone.


I think sex should be for people you love. It's much more satisfying. Did you know human brain chemistry works better with love? The "cuddle hormone" of oxytocin mitigates the "sugar crash" after the neurochemicals of sex. Sex is literally addicting without love. It's just empty in the end.


So that's my 2 cents. If you are looking for a serious relationship I think that's what you should stick to--stay away from the Jays. That's what worked for me. Do what you like, but I think it may just lead to more drama and disappointment.