Hi Hope,

I read your original post in this string, and a couple of responses. I haven't read them all.

You know my story.

I took a big step forward recently. Two things happened: I took some time off from work on sick leave, and I let myself sink into a terribly low state of mind for a few weeks.

You saw my posts on here, longing and mourning.

I think, for me, I actually needed to let everything wash over me, and sink into true despair for a while. I think my franticness to just keep moving actually kept me from progressing.

I'm doing better now than I was a few weeks ago. I found a few people that I trust, and this board, and I really vented and TALKED about all the pain.

Trying to chase the pain away when you haven't processed it enough yet, I think, slows you down from progressing.

Just my recent experience.

RDMercer