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Sep 11, 2023 at 11:30 AM
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Originally Posted by RDMercer
Hi Hope,
I read your original post in this string, and a couple of responses. I haven't read them all.
You know my story.
I took a big step forward recently. Two things happened: I took some time off from work on sick leave, and I let myself sink into a terribly low state of mind for a few weeks.
You saw my posts on here, longing and mourning.
I think, for me, I actually needed to let everything wash over me, and sink into true despair for a while. I think my franticness to just keep moving actually kept me from progressing.
I'm doing better now than I was a few weeks ago. I found a few people that I trust, and this board, and I really vented and TALKED about all the pain.
Trying to chase the pain away when you haven't processed it enough yet, I think, slows you down from progressing.
Just my recent experience.
RDMercer
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Thank you....
I am not necessarily trying to chase my pain away and I have been processing and grieving the relationship since 2020 when I first separated from my husband.
I am now just dealing with leftovers and remnants of him that float around. I do not dwell on him nor I am obsessing. Thoughts of him float through maybe once a day... I think I'm still grieving a bit, but through my grief, I am making sure that I am meeting new people, forming new friendships, and am having fun.
Life is good in other words. I am doing well! Thanks for your thoughts.
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