Yeah i did. I think its a lack of real empathy, by which i mean, nobody put anything into OUR empathy bucket for us to then give empathy out of.

It IS painful to look back on. In grade school, my best friend called me on the phone to tell me a younger classmate had died. I remember saying, "your kidding!" Why would she kid about that? But thats how my mother reacted to me, no sympathy or empathy ever, altho she had it for my older brother.

The solution for me was to find what i missed in childhood, in adult therapy with a child psychologist. Also look at the Childhood Neglect books, and threads on this site. Neglect cain make you grow as crooked as abuse does, only in a different way.