Couldn't have said it better myself Wendy. I've been reading about some self therapy stuff that seems to help me. It focuses more on thinking/analyzing what happened to with an open mind as opposed to dwelling on it. I've learned that when I dwell on things I find myself creating the new wounds as Wendy mentioned. When I try to analyze it, to understand how it's affecting me today, with the understanding that I will not let it get me down, I find that my urges to cut are all but gone. I have also found that if I'm not careful, I can get wrapped up in these memories and loose sight of what I'm doing... and wind up dwelling. Granted, I've only been looking into this for a couple days, but it seems to help. Not sure if any of this will help you with what you're going through Star, and if it doesn't then just forget I said anything. Anyway, please be safe.

ryan