Hello Stephanie --

If I've read your post correctly, you broke up 2 weeks ago. I think that's a bit soon to think that you'd be over him, esp. since you are still in contact.

I find that it is best for me not to continue to be friends when an intimate relationship must end. If I have friendly feelings, the man may be pining for me -- and so the issue of sexuality will keep coming up, and I am uncomfortable with having always to remind him that that's not going to happen anymore. And if my heart is still engaged, the best way for me to get past the relationship is to put it "out of sight" so that "out of mind" will follow.

It's a good sign that you recognize the relationship as toxic and are taking steps to take care of yourself. It's not easy and you are very brave to do it.

Best wishes.