It's been exhausting. just the personal up and down of this stupid reunion planning and for it to end this way. Good news is it was taken away from me and is no longer something for me to work on. Bad news is, I feel slighted and cheated.

I've worked really hard these past two weeks to prepare us for a real Reunion-- the kind that takes many months planning and hard work. I've done so much in terms of setting things up and working us towards a goal. I'll spare you all the details but when I asked if people wanted a formal/semi-formal type of reunion I got a great response. I made a committee of people who said "If you want some help let me know!" -- I pitched my first preliminary ticket price after countless research and finding the best prices I could of around $50 to compensate our costs. It was a little steeper than I would have liked personally, and they were adamantly against it -- so I looked for ways to cut corners. Then our venue option fell apart. ... and then the claws came out.

I offered to put in some money towards the reunion to help drive ticket pricing down. I got a very negative and borderline rude reaction to that... but it makes sense why a little later. You see, a particular member has poked a bunch at the idea of "maybe something less like what you want and more like a taco truck in front of a bar". -- Nothing wrong with this idea, but its A) not what I envisioned and B) we can fight all day about what a class reunion is, but it's more than a definition of a gathering of people. There were certain aspects, which weren't costing anything, but just my time, that I really wanted to encompass. Dancing, music,. games and activities I planned, etc. I really wanted a sit down meal of sorts, but it was looking out of the budget.

I live in a small town and there is a bar on main street that is relatively big, but not a lounge or really adequate for parties. He said he wouldn't close the bar down and we'd just mingle with other patrons around 6 to 7, he'll put us on one side of the bar and bring our own snacks. ( Again, nothing wrong with this idea.. but definitely not idea for any of the more traditional things I wanted to do). But, venue would be free..

As a last ditch effort to try to salvage just a little of what I had planned... I offered we use a cheap, large venue so I could decorate (I've had banners and memorabilia plans and even outsourced people to help create things), play the games I had in mind, sit down to eat the Olive Garden they've agreed on price wise, dance, etc. and then maybe transition to the bar for drinks.

response? "I dont know.. I think more people will come this way." -- everyone agreed


It's clear that they never had intention of letting my idea of the reunion flourish. I'm a little hurt they took every aspect of what I wanted from me. They may be right, what they want may be successful and they'll get people to come... but I hardly see the need for a 5 person committe and 9 months to plan it out. Hell, they planned the entire thing in 2 hours and seem very proud of themselves. I wish them success, but my feelings are hurt.

Worst part is I cant do anything to address it because I dont want drama and these people would just spin it to me being irrational.

I just wish I didn't feel so beat up by everyone. No one was on my side from the beginning and I was fighting a losing battle.