Am I the only one that read that first post and thought...

"Eff that treatment. That's BS."

Seriously. Let's offer some blunt validation. Eff that guy, Eff that type of talk to you, that's BS.

Armorplate gave you a hug. Here's another one.

When my wife would start berating me, something I used to do was affirm, out loud, my positive contributions to our home.

Language and berating begins...

"You know what, I work hard, for all of us. I don't believe in men's work and women's work, and I've always readily looked after household chores and responsibilities with the kids since they were babies. I'm a good father. I'm a good provider. I'm here, and present everyday to contribute to our home."

Do you notice something? There was NOTHING about my spouse in that statement. She would become so enraged and fume when I talked like that. If that happens, recognize it. It says something about your situation if you can't even say something positive about yourself in front of your partner.

Eff that guy. Eff that treatment. That's BS.

As a trades guy who did tons of work on his own house, thanks for trying to help. I'd have been happy to have someone try to help, or offer to hold the light.

RDMercer