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Originally Posted by Yaowen
I am sorry you are in that situation. People sometimes don't like other people for purely personal reasons and then feel the need to come up with "objective" evidence to justify their feelings.
That is really unfair but I fear it happens a lot. I had a supervisor once who was constantly looking for reasons to get me fired. Luckily he failed. Later I found out it was for personal reasons. On the other hand, I had a supervisor for whom I could do no wrong. I am so sorry that you are not getting support at work.
There are people who will be unhappy with no matter what.
Reminds me of a story of a father and son going to market on a donkey. People saw the father riding the donkey and said: How awful that the man is making the child walk while he rides the donkey.
So the man put his son on the donkey and people said: How awful that the boy is letting his poor father walk while he rides the donkey.
So both the father and son got on the donkey and people said: How awful that two people are riding on that poor little donkey.
So the father and son carried the donkey and people said: How awful that there are crazy people like them who try to carry a donkey.
Does that story make sense?
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It is really unfair. I forgot to add that their HR person kept showing up to the front office to borrow the tape dispenser. She borrowed it three times. Could she BE more obvious? She was likely monitoring my work space because there are a million tape dispensers around the entire office space. Like, what the hell?!
Then, one of the staff brought a file I'd put together to do a "teachable moment." Again, having been duped a million times by people who hate temps, I knew what was coming. "Motts, you put the older date on top." No, I didn't. YOU did, so you have evidence that I put the file together wrong.
The phone transfer, the file correction, taking away front office duties after only being there 2 weeks is an insult to my intelligence and to my administrative skills. I have certifications in multiple areas and yet I'm sitting there in my corner picking my nose, twiddling my thumbs, watching people around me sabotage my work attempts to show the recruiter that they feel that I'm incapable.
I really want to work for myself. I am terrible at office politics and navigating through all of this game playing. It's exhausting to witness and be a victim of, especially when HR is game playing too.
Like your experience, @
Yaowen, I have no control over who supervises me. The people can like or not like me.
All I can do is mind my business when I am a temp and have no legal rights at the company since I AM a temp. Temps have no legal rights.
Yes, the donkey story. I'm familiar with it.
The moral: Try to please everyone and you will please no one.
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The Man, the Boy, and the Donkey
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A man and his son were once going with their donkey to market. As they were walking along by his side a countryman passed them and said, "You fools, what is a donkey for but to ride upon?" So the man put the boy on the donkey, and they went on their way.
But soon they passed a group of men, one of whom said, "See that lazy youngster, he lets his father walk while he rides."
So the man ordered his boy to get off, and got on himself. But they hadn't gone far when they passed two women, one of whom said to the other, "Shame on that lazy lout to let his poor little son trudge along."
Well, the man didn't know what to do, but at last he took his boy up before him on the donkey. By this time they had come to the town, and the passersby began to jeer and point at them. The man stopped and asked what they were scoffing at.
The men said, "Aren't you ashamed of yourself for overloading that poor donkey of yours -- you and your hulking son?"
The man and boy got off and tried to think what to do. They thought and they thought, until at last they cut down a pole, tied the donkey's feet to it, and raised the pole and the donkey to their shoulders. They went along amid the laughter of all who met them until they came to a bridge, when the donkey, getting one of his feet loose, kicked out and caused the boy to drop his end of the pole. In the struggle the donkey fell over the bridge, and his forefeet being tied together, he was drowned.
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I'm not trying to please anyone at this temp job. I'm just trying to perform the tasks I was asked to perform and instead I'm being manipulated, sabotaged, undermined, insulted, and setup because these catty women don't like my personality. I don't "fit" their toxic office culture. It's a small county office of ten staff. Apparently, the front admin specialist is SO conniving she's driven out EVERY temp and other employee who sat in the 2nd admin specialist role.
I say that because she gossips about the past admin specialists and the other staff to me all day long. She shows me their Microsoft Teams messages to her about me, about other staff and gossips like she's exempt from any consquences. What can I do? I just nod and play along. She went to an hour long meeting on Friday with the administrative director (the woman who supervises her).
I can only imagine the lies the front desk admin specialist spun about me, having listened to her tales of other women who did the role I was hired to fill in for. They are hiring for it and past experience tells me I won't be chosen since the administrative director would have to change my "temp" contract to "direct hire" or "temp to hire" to avoid paying the large $5000 fee to hire me to full-time. It's cheaper to hire an outside job applicant.
What I hate is watching them create these lies about my work performance. It doesn't help me to email the recruiter who are just as conniving. It's all about the money. Temps are expendable. We aren't considered viable humans. We don't have souls. We are just a weekly paystub and a commission to the recruiters and the companies that hire temps. We are the dirt worms crawl in.
I will just keep applying to jobs (which haven't hired me yet despite the multitude of interview requests). The catch-22 as a temp is when the people interviewing me want professional references. Companies legally won't act as a reference for temps since temps aren't their employees. So, recruiters are the references. And no, I don't have previous references I could request a professional reference from.
I think I should try to do freelance work while I continue my rideshare driving. Expecting the temp job to go away b/c of the fictitious narrative this county office staff is creating about my work performance because the women are catty and dont' like my personality, is why I have to work for myself. I am tired of office politics. Temps never win those battles. So it's just not worth trying to correct their blatant lies about my work performance to the recruiter.