My Support Forums - View Single Post - I want to die happy. is that a weird goal on it's own?

eskielover · Sep 23, 2023 at 08:50 PM

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Originally Posted by emily1890

what I mean by that is, I don't have any goals. I don't have any idea how I am going to reach happiness.

I just know that I want to die happy. I don't want to look back on my life and think oh I wish I did this, this, and this.

I want to do it.

At 70, I realize the goals I had, I achieved....HOWEVER I had to fight parents & then husband to achieve them. I was definitely happy I achieved then but unhappy with the fighting it required to get there.

I did everything that my life allowed to be done. I will not regret anything that was not possible in my life. Being realistic is one of the keys to happiness.

I walked away from a 33 year marriage & everything I had. Only thing I had was the inheritance my mom left me & with that I bought a small farm & a truck 2100 miles away from everything I ever knew & started life all over at 54. I find that happiness is more of a state of mind & being satisfied with what one has rather than unhappy because of what one doesn't have. I have never been happier than I am now & I am living alone with my animals who are my family. I could make myself miserable thinking about all the "things" I walked away from but my happiness does not depend on things. It depends on the peace & contentment even if it is basically with nothing but my farm, my animals & the friends I have made over the last 16 years of living here. I don't even regret my bad marriage because without it, I would not be where I am today. If I hadn't gone through what I did, I would not have had the experiences that can help others now. Happiness is all about the way we choose to see the life we have......& yes, I hated my life in my bad marriage but escaping from that & years of good therapy to process it all has brought me peace & happiness where I am without any regrets