I remember you saying that maybe my marriage has served its purpose, raising our son, and now that he is successfully living and working in another state, that it wouldn't be considered a failure if I ended it; that maybe it has just run it's natural course and there's no "bad guy" that I perceive I would be if I left; that it's nobody's fault.

I don't believe any of that, though, which is essentially the problem. I cannot break my marriage vows; I may not go to church every Sunday anymore but I still consider them sacred. Well, if he cheated on me, stole from me, or hit me or something, I would not force myself to stay. I would leave under that type of circumstance. But my being annoyed with him for not being more supportive of my upcoming surgery/procedure (and other such annoyances)? Those are not enough for me to break my vows.

Maybe I'm wrong.

I don't know.