I'm on it.

This is so hard. I adored my wife, and I know I said on here repeatedly that I believed she gave us 110% of everything she could give us and that she was just past her limits every day.

Well.... WTH??

Where is she now as a parent?

I know I poured my angst and longing for her out on this forum, but this was the only place to go. I couldn't financially, or by time, afford regular counselling.

While I don't bash her at home, the kids NEED to be validated that she messed up, and that they don't deserve to be discarded.

My few interactions with her it really seems like in her mind she's wronged and she is going to seek revenge by financially ruining me.

Something that is telling is that we lock and latch the door when home during the day. If we see a figure at the door, like an Amazon driver, we freeze.... Everyone is just on eggshells waiting for her to show up again and cause drama and emotional pain.