Also, given that she abuses alcohol, you will never know what level of alcoholic is in her system and she may be texting and threatening you under the influence.

There is an initial buzz and then after that the alcohol just slowly disables the frontal lobe executive function part of the brain. That’s when these angry threatening outbursts take place. Same can happen with dementia.

That’s why distancing is very important because of the unstable behavior patterns. That is why it’s so unhealthy for your children to be exposed to her. It can traumatize them and part of the reason you and your children feel so uneasy at the thought of her showing up is because she is so unpredictable.

I am very sorry because this is something I have experienced first hand.