This is obviously a personal preference with no right/wrong answers, but I could not work with a blank slate therapist. Since much of my trauma is interpersonal, anything that happens between us is very important. The questions like yours above a pure therapy gold--so much good stuff to explore here!

Any time I have strong reactions to my therapist, to something he did or didn't do, we roll up our sleeves and dig in. First, we have to do some repair work. I have to be able to express my feelings and have them validated. Then he will generally share his perspective. And then when the feelings have settled enough to do deeper work, we dig into why I might be feeling this way, what iin my past made this a big deal to me, how it plays out in my other relationships, etc.

Just another perspective--may or may not be helpful.