Oh yes! Lots of drama. Both present with BPD and NPD. That and a need for control. Also exaggerating and gaslighting.

They often love to get a buzz and go clubbing and can hang out with the kind of friends you have described.

I know all about the toxic threats you have described.

You really are much better off without her in your life. They are just users, it’s all about them. They are either the hero or the victim. Nothing is ever their fault or a result of their own actions.