Not sure what she wanted me to confess to. Intel to use against me because she’s just like that. There is another abuser in the family and they don’t believe it, although he has done jail time for repeat offences to his partners (domestic violence). Neither her nor my mom have good track records for honesty, so it’s hard to tell when they’re being honest. A lot of manipulation and triangulation out of both of them. My aunt accused my mom of lying a lot, but it appears my aunt likes to provoke, and lie, and gets angered quite easily if you set a boundary, or disagree with her.

My mom told me an awful lot of the details about the case. In court, it’s not unheard of that a victim doesn’t have to testify if the perpetrator does not contest anything. A lot of details were shared about his therapy, and just a lot of things were known in the community and shared as fact beyond what my mother said. It appears like something was done, either out of my stepfather's guilt or due to a court process.

My mom liked gloating and gossiping and that could have given the appearance that the situation was dealt with. Police records are not free information, even in cases of child sexual abuse in my country.

My aunt had some odd behaviour and seemed to take opportunity to belittle and isolate me if I was feeling vulnerable.

I used to have faith in my aunt, but she acted bizarrely recently- like trying to give my physical address out to my mom when I was no contact - after telling me my mom was essentially complicit in my sexual abuse.

My mom was abusive and used to allow my brother to physically attack me. I told my aunt this, and she tried to triangulate my brother into the situation when my mom passed away, and essentially gave him all the power, while he stonewalled me on any information.

Essentially, my aunt would say something provocative and I would tell her, “that's not right” and she’d rage like you had seriously emotionally wounded her. She likes to score keep and any information I give to her is kept as intel to use against you later.

At a later date, when I caught her in another lie, she threw the situation with my mother back in my face and swore up and down she had no idea where my mother lived and said she would never lie to me, which came across like she’s lying. She’s done that a couple of times and then would try to gaslight me afterwards. She tries to mess with your head and if you don’t react and point out a discrepancy on anything she says, she goes on a warpath of name calling, put downs, labelling and spreading as much c.r.a.p. as she can to her people.

She has 0 loyalty to me. She calls me a liar I think as projection. She screamed it at me when I admitted I felt vulnerable around an alcoholic superintendent. It’s like she took a moment of vulnerability, saw it as weakness and attacked. She is vindictive, and if I merely point out a discrepancy and admit I don’t like how she handled something (without attacking her) she goes into a rage.

I have seen a lot of rages and violent tantrums out of family and I am just done with it. Now it’s piecing together the stories to figure out what is actually true. Decided my family does not have my best interest at heart.

A truthful person wouldn’t rage at you or punish you for pointing out a discrepancy.

Trust me the more I go into it, the harder it might be to understand.