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Old Oct 03, 2023, 07:52 AM
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Yes, it's that subject again, my mother!

3 weeks ago, she started on at me again, usual subject, the way people are treating her. Angst all directed at me so I picked up my things and said I was going. For someone who cannot walk very well, she got to the front door very quickly and stood there shouting "you get back here, I'm talking to you". I got in car and drove off.

Today, I've just come off the phone to her. For 35 of 45 minutes I've listened to how she feels I'm treating her. For someone who hates liars, she's told a few today. She also admitted that she was not going to phone me, so my brother has been sorting out things.

I haven't been well since the latest episode. Heart rate, blood pressure all over the place. Coughing, feeling sick, shivering and just want to sleep... It's not Covid!

We've gone back over the same old ground. She can't understand why I'm treating her this way. She thinks it's something new. Had to remind her that it's happening about every 6-8 weeks, when someone's done her wrong. Of course, she's had to bring up how much my brother and sister-in-law are doing for her.. Especially as there's sister-in-law's mother and stepmother to care for too!

She kept going back over the subject and when I said I wasn't able to get a word in, she accused me of being rude and adopting a snappy attitude with her. Also alluded to fact that other people have told her she's not looking after herself but has admitted that she's to blame for dwelling on the situation with me and other people. So I'm to blame for her current physical and mental state....

Am supposed to be going over to my brother's on Saturday as it's my sister-in-law's birthday on Friday, but I just don't want to go. If I don't then my brother will have to fetch mother.

Sorry, it's same old topic again but at moment I can't see a way out of this. And she's now started mirroring what I've said about not being able to take any more....
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