I don’t like blank slate Ts. My T shares things all the time and also posts a lot on her social media page. Even though it’s all genuine, honest and interesting stuff from the perspective of not just a T, MY actual T as both a human and T, I can be highly triggered by simple things popping up on my news feed. It was so difficult at times that I’ve been tempted to block or unfollow her but I didn’t and I’ve found it has got easier.
Things are happening in Ts lives whether we know about it or not and I have learned that so far she has showed up for me regardless of whatever struggle she posted about that week.
I feel I can trust her more because she is true to herself and I don’t feel like there’s a big difference between her as a professional and her as a regular person, which I feel is not the kind of thing that can be got from a blank state T, where I’d be thinking ‘but what do they REALLY think of me?’
It’s not for everyone though and it was damn hard to get to this point. Like really hard!