Only you know if it's time to find someone else.

Maybe you should set up a crisis plan/safety plan? Then you would both know what to expect from each other. I have a safety plan with L. And we have set expectations that work for both of us. She is not a 24/7 therapist, so it helps me to know what her boundaries are. And she sets her boundaries where she can be consistent, not to punish me.

Two months is still early in the relationship. And you've already had two crises? Maybe she's not feeling equipped to deal with someone who is struggling so much. You say she's pre-licensed? That tells me that she either isn't equipped and/or that she has a supervisor who is working with her.

Again, 2 months is early. I remember yelling at T "You're not listening to me!" during one of our first sessions. I also remember telling her that I hated her. And yet we worked together for 4 years. She really helped me get to a place where I can now do deep trauma work with L. And yes, she did start listening to me after that session.

I do understand wanting to be heard. The thing that instantly attracted me to L was that she asked what I felt on our first phone call. She's always wanting to hear what my parts have to say. She calls it my "golden finch voice". Anything I bring, she welcomes it. So I can understand why it would be frustrating for your T to just say her opinion and not check in with you about yours.

It really is best to talk to her about it. If you don't, you'll just remain frustrated and upset and the relationship won't grow. Then you probably will leave. But if you talk to her about it, maybe you can work things out and the relationship can grow.