The trauma bonding with my moms ex made me have to literally spend days digging a waste deep trench when I was 16 to heat the garage, laughing at me the whole time. He could have just used a forklift - But wanted to save money (And made almost 200k a year), bought my mom a 999 dollar engagement ring before he won the lottery and left. He stole gasoline etc and got me to steal things from work when I didn't want to.