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Originally Posted by therealme
i was told yesterday to " snap out of it", by my mum
i feel another rant on the way.......
why cant she see that it is her fault i am going though most of my problems.
my therapist told me if my mother had listened to me and / or believed me when i was younger, that i would be in a much better state of mind ( not saying i wouldnt be still here)
so if she tells me to snap out of it again, im going to go medevil on her....................... well thats my rant over with for today
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I'm so sorry. That is an incredibly unhelpful and infuriating thing for your Mum to say to you. This is such a pervasive problem: people who don't understand depression (or other mood disorders) getting frustrated and saying ridiculous things to people who have depression and other mood disorders. Ask her if she'd tell you to snap out of it if you had food poisoning. People have to understand that this is an illness. You didn't ask for this. None of us did. We are mostly doing the best we can, and to be told by anyone, least of all close family members, to snap out of it is just the pits. It really is.
Even if you don't understand mood disorders, even if you don't know what to say to someone who has one, even if you feel frustrated with your loved one, that is never an excuse to invalidate their experience by suggesting they can just chose to feel a different way.
It is incredibly sad that there are still so many people who don't even believe that mental illness is real. And yet, every time someone in the public eye takes their own life, there is almost always this outpouring of, "oh, that's so tragic, if only they had talked to someone, if only they had reached out for help" blah, blah blah. Yet when people are still alive and actually are reaching out for help, it's all, "oh, just pull yourself together, it's not that bad, snap out of it". So messed up!!
Anyhow, rant away. We get it. And again, I'm really sorry your Mum said that to you.