Just getting round to catching up....

The Saturday dinner was a nightmare! Not my mother this time, but my sister-in-law's. She also has health problems but shouts due to many years working in a factory.

Of course, my mother wasn't the centre of attention and displayed her displeasure. Came to conclusion that she is definitely a narcissist. Apparently my aunt was also finishing her sentences for her, one of the red flags in their relationship.

Yesterday almost descended into the usual disagreement where my aunt is concerned. My mother is obsessed with telling people she doesn't expect them to take sides. So, stop provoking these disagreements, jut as your own mother did.

Christmas is now appearing on the agenda. My aunt wants us to go to her on Boxing Day. The pub across road is only doing a limited fixed price menu, which would be a complete waste of money for my mother. "Picky food" seems best idea. Also, my aunt has suggested trip out to a garden centre before Christmas. We're sorting this out after my holiday in 2 weeks.

Yet again, my mother is behaving just like hers did over invitations out. When I suggested she talk to my aunt about the above, I was greeted with "I'm not bringing it up with her". What an attitude for an adult!

Back to my holiday. A spontaneous decision few weeks ago. With 2 weeks to go, I'm anticipating more angst. When other family members go on holiday, I get their flight numbers to see on a flight tracker. Have given her mine and already got comment "how can I do that". In other words, I'm not happy you're going on holiday so I'm not going to be interested. Normal behaviour!!