Nice, Artie! I've been told by L that people want to be helpful to us, they just often times don't know how. L always tells me how helpful it is when I tell her exactly what I need or want.

With H, I make a big deal every time he does something for me and I always tell him it's the little things that make a difference. So, for example, when he puts his towel away after a shower, I praise him. Or maybe I'll ask him to get my insulin shot at night for me. I'll point out how helpful that is.

My problem is the nagging... I am constantly complaining about what he doesn't do instead of just asking him to do it. Baby steps!

Oh, and pick your battles. Sometimes certain things just aren't worth the effort. Like laundry. I finally stopped nagging him about leaving his clothes inside out. It's not worth it to either of us to harp on it.