gege808, you're growing in your relationship and learning the most important key in a healthy relationship, communication. How was her response to you keeping your cool? You've learned the secret to a successful arguement, what comes out of your mouth needs to be productive and not meant to inflame. I think the reason you feel closer to her after this arguement is that you weren't hurtful and destructive and you were proud of that mature behavior. Keep up the good work!