Hello everyone. I'm here for a bit of perspective and also to vent.

I just lost my relationship with someone all due to the rules of her church. My partner is a member of a specific church, it isn't a church that believes in the traditional christian teachings.

This church has various rules such as requiring their members to attend service 2x a week, etc.. one of their rules is that their members are forbidden to have relationships with non-members otherwise they can face ex-communication.

Anyway, the relationship I had with her was a very healthy one. We were happy, in love, all that stuff but the religious differences became a growing issue. I tried discussing my concerns and sharing resources about her church's teachings, but it led to a debate with her minister. It turns out this church discourages members from questioning their teachings, they are raised to believe in what their ministers say. They have full faith in them.

To cut the story short. She decided to remain loyal to her church and since I refused to convert she decided to cut communication with me.

During the no-communication phase, I was pressured to convert, as if her only condition for resuming communication was my conversion. In an attempt to be fair, I visited her church, attended their services, and engaged in their initiation process. This process required a 25-day lesson, followed by an oath and contract signing before baptism. However, I could only last six days and couldn't convert.

We eventually regained communication, but it didn't last long, as the topic resurfaced. I lost my temper and started to argue. Now, I'm feeling deeply depressed and frustrated. Part of me wants to send a letter to express my feelings - get things off my chest. I don't want her to believe that this relationship ended simply due to incompatibility, which she says it is, but the reality is it's all because of her churches teachings. For me, it's crucial that she doesn't view her actions as honorable, considering that the primary reason for our situation was the threat of excommunication from her church. I'm struggling to decide whether to maintain silence or exercise my right to express my feelings, even though it wouldn't be the first time I've done so.

Anyway, i guess this is what drives me to post here about this.