"As about worrying you’ll never feel how you feel for her, that’s a good sign. It was not healthy, largely based on illusion and unbalanced. That creates unusually intense attachment that could be mistaken for “intense love like never before blah blah blah”. But it’s not sustainable. True happiness is contentment, not anxious obsession. So that’s a positive outcome if you never go for such relationship"

You're right. Simple as that.... You're right.

I did beg her, for years, and then right up until March, to be more involved with the kids.

In March, my son went to the cops and hired a lawyer to find out about charging his mother with abuse, and my daughter made a statement in support of him. My daughter also told her mom that she wouldn't be with her anymore.

That was it.... Done. I wasn't going to undermine them. So, since then, I haven't tried to have both parents in their life.

My wife is extremely academically accomplished. There is work she's done that is still being referenced in her field 18 years after she produced it.

But.... She can only make $20,000 a year, and can only get part time retail work, and she needs extensive financial support and money for family counselling. Yeah, she's made big requests. She has also requested I be ordered not to leave the state for work. I have a family property, a 4BR house with an apartment that I can move to that is about a mile from where I grew up, with work I can go to there. It's like her goal is to see me impoverished and living miserably here.

This is what narcissism looks like in court.

This hurts in my heart. It really does.

RDMercer