She either didn’t work or worked basic minimum because she could. Most of us would live on the street and eat out of a dumpster if we didn’t work or barely worked. Even married people would be in a terrible shape if one spouse decided to not contribute as it’s really hard to live on one income. She lived that way because she could.

Yes it possibly means you’ll have to support her but you can’t change that. Many people do what they can get away with. She got away with a lot. But at some point she’ll stop getting away with things. Even if you have to pay her or sell the house, it will not last forever. She’ll face the consequences of living off others. But it won’t be your concern.

You’ll do what judge decides. But stop worrying about her. She used to lay around the house and drink and now she parties and drinks. You can’t change her. Focus on yourself and your kids and follow legal channels