Did i read that correctly, the night in the ER was right before the breakup lunch?

Maybe mom put a bug in her ear.

My mother did that to me once, in college. I never explained to the guy what turned me cold, but it was my mother making fun of him. I could have had a normal wholesome life with a guy who loved me, but nooooo. She couldnt tolerate that. And yes i am also anxious avoidant.