Arbie, I'm sorry that you are dealing with the things that you are, whatever they may be.

Unaluna referenced codependency, is that some of what you're looking for? I'm codependent, not so much as a result of alcoholic family members, but due to different disorders which time and again pushed me into the role of a compulsive fixer and caretaker. Often without even having an awareness of what was going on.

At any rate, if there's a forum here for all-purpose codependency, I haven't yet found it. I've considered posting to the powers that be to request such a board, but am not even sure if or where that could be done.