Your wife is going to try to rewrite history like most addicts do. They are either the hero or the victim, never the villain These individuals cannot live a normal healthy life with a partner. They tend to create the drama that feeds into their addictions. They tend to have problems both at work and in their relationships always looking to blame others when things go south.

If a partner has low self esteem they use it to gain control. They are very unhealthy individuals and their life revolves around this problem drunk or sober mentality. They know how to suck others into playing their game and believe me plenty of people fall victim.

You deserve better and to be free of this kind of sick person who is unable to have an actual healthy relationship. This is not your fault and it’s not your children’s fault either. Do your best to minimize your exposure to this sick individual who can never love you the way you love.