what I find especially hard is breaking that sense that you're on auto pilot. Even though I've been working on better boundaries for the last few years, sometimes someone will do something that just triggers an automatic response - which could be somewhat trauma related. Those are especially tough, because you do them without thinking and it can be hard to backtrack at the time. Often times, it just involves resolving myself to do better with the boundary next time....

But, we do it for us, because we deserve what's on the other side of healthy boundaries and taking care of ourselves.