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Nov 03, 2023 at 04:08 AM
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Originally Posted by Samicat
I am concerned about you being "pent up" and feeling like you *need* physical touch, kissing and sex. This puts you in a vulnerable position with these guys. Many single people go for years without kissing, touching or sex. It seems to me that you need to find a way to deal with your physical desires/needs that will not put you in a position of emotional vulnerability. Like going for massages, or whatever.
You are operating from a position with no power if you *need* something he is offering. He can dictate his terms. If you want to get out of crappy interactions like this jerk, you need to make a change in how you deal with your physical desires. Sex from a partner is not a need, it's a desire.
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Thanks for your concern.
I've decided to get what I want out of guy #1 without getting involved. Meaning, if the opportunity to have sex with him arises, then I will. If not, no big deal. But, I am not going to pursue him, and I am not going to date him.
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Last edited by Have Hope; Nov 03, 2023 at 04:58 AM..
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