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Nov 03, 2023, 10:19 AM
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Member Since: Oct 2004
Location: Kentucky, USA
Posts: 25,079
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That's why I'm curious what to do because even then, it never works out...
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The thing is, if the other person realizes it is not a compatible relationship there is NOTHING you can do about changing that.
Are you in therapy? There may be something subtle you are doing when you go out whether people are telling you that you are fine or not. Most of the time we just feel it is something not ok for us but there may be someone else who is ok with it & it is just easier not to get into it but to end it & just walk away.
I had a guy friend from my horse equitation class in college. He wanted to date. I realized he had control issues & kept him at a distance. We did stay friends. Turned out he was very controlling & he destroyed 2 of his marriages. He would have never listened to what I had to say about his controlling personality so I never bothered to say what I sensed I just never allowed him into my life to be able to get that chance with me. Sometimes the other person just senses something they don't want in a relationship & end it early before confrontation becomes necessary. Obviously I don't know you or your personality & others who say things are fine may be not wanting to confront or don't even see a problem. Sometimes a therapist can help because they get to know you & are a 3rd party not really involved except as a therapist there to help you
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