I´ve met with a social worker within an employment program (I live in Sweden) for several months. There are programs for people who are unemployed and at the same time on sick leave, that is the participants can have physical or mental health issues.

They all know this when admitting people to the unemployment program and now after some months together with this social worker/coach our contact has just ended up badly.

I liked her at first, she´s kind but she either ignores or doesn´t have the knowledge in how to meet me in what I tell her about how I feel, what´s important to me, how my mental health affects what work I can do and so on.

I´ve sent her several e-mails describing what I look for, that she sees my perspective in things and that she pays attention to how I feel and expericence things that happen in our contact.

But she mostly replies to other things, she presents her perspective and she constantly misses out on how I express that I experience things. I´ve said that straight out to her, in writing; that she doesn´t pay attention to my perspective.

But still nothing. She´s always kind and says she´s sorry that things have turned out this way but she doesn´t change anything. There are several e-mails where she answers to everything else instead of noticing and responding to what I tell her.

As an example I would want her to answer something like this "I read you feel a lack of trust when I told you someone else will also be part of your case in the future", "what can I do to help you with that?" or something like that.

But she just ignores things like this, although it´s rather simple to respond to.

I´ve tried several things, I told her I could take "blame" and end this employment program but she didn´t want that. I´ve now told her, in a new e-mail, that I could stop telling her how I feel and that I could stop telling her more personal things as that don´t work in my contact with her.

I can´t change social worker or coach so this post isn´t about that.