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How is your relationship with parents & family? I ask because one of my problems was that my parents were totally dysfunctional & growing up every relationship was only surface level for me. I didn't have a clue how to have a real meaningful "connected" relationship so my dating was that way too. I dated a lot but never had a real boyfriend. Even my marriage was that way. I knew deep down inside relationships must be more than I experienced but never felt it.
I thought, I am the common denominator so it must be me with the problem. I seemed to keep attracting dysfunctional guys also. When I finally left my bad marriage & got into good DBT therapy & started processing my life, & found there were similar mental issues causing those behaviors in the people I did connect my life with & I was able to learn functional skills & being around functional people I learned how to really connect with others & have relationships. After that bad marriage I have no interest in that kind of relationship but other real friends, it is nice to be able to have meaningful friendship relations with now. I still struggle at times but have come such a long way.
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Leo's favorite place was in the passenger seat of my truck. We went everywhere together like this.
Leo my soulmate will live in my heart FOREVER Nov 1, 2002 - Dec 16, 2018
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