Maybe "therapy" isn't the answer. I did a lot of it myself. Whenever I made progress, it wasn't thanks to therapy.

I think most therapists mean well. Often they just don't have anything to offer you that will make a difference. In your case, that therapist was working for your father . . . not you. Maybe your father was paying for the sessions.

If you are experiencing excess mental turmoil, then something in your approach to life is not working for you. You probably need to create more space between your parents and yourself. They're not going to change. You're not going to talk them into treating you differently. Sometimes the most powerful way to react to a situation is to not react to it. Your father sounds kind of babyish. (He tattled on you to your counselor.) He probably knows how to push your buttons. Try under-responding. When someone can set you off, you're conceding control to them. You don't have to.