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Originally Posted by birdyblues
I definitely do need to create more space between my parents and myself. I guess it's just hard to know how to even start to do that because as a kid, you want your parent to have all the answers. I know my parents are only human and I can't force change on them. But I do wish that even if they don't understand or don't have the skills to help me they could've pointed me towards someone who actually knew how to help me. But I do like the idea of being able to have some amount of control over the situation...even if it means not reacting how I want to
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Personal power is rooted in self-control. When others can "get a rise out of you," whenever they decide to push one of your buttons, you are at their mercy. Your personal thoughts and feelings about any given matter are your own business. You don't have to automatically share them in an outburst. Try making yourself more mysterious. Give your parents something to wonder about.
Your parents don't have all the answers. They have problems of their own that they are having trouble managing. You seem intelligent. There may be nobody who's going to be a great life coach for you. You may have to figure a lot out for yourself. That tends to be true, if you're an original thinker who doesn't easily accept what others say.