Thank you for all of the suggestions. It really has been amazing just finally understanding what's been going on my whole life. Recognizing it as it's happening really strips it of its power, but makes it hard to just ignore. I just have to keep playing along because I know how dangerous/volatile he can get when challenged. At least my brother and sister are on my side and supportive now and I have an amazing friend that says I can stay with her anytime I need to. I just have to focus on finding a new job.