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Howdy,
Endings that I intend,
and endings which upend.
Part of Medicare's home hospice benefit is bereavement support for a year. I played that card, and deflected being sent to a group to working with a Chaplin over 10 months, meeting once a month. I followed the same process as I had with my dead mom—composing a 2 page letter made of an article or blog on a virtue or character trait and a hand full of quotes found on goodreads related to the same theme.
We had one last "close out" session due for October (my mom's birth month). First she moved the date because she would be on vacation. Just before the reset date, she texted me that "something had come up" and she would need to rebook again. Then nothing for the rest of that week. I sent an text and email with possible new times and still nothing. Silence.
So, today, I'm declaring it's over. I did this process 68 times with my mom and 9 times with the Chaplin. Good run.
I like this quote:
Grief is love's souvenir. It's our proof that we once loved. Grief is the receipt we wave in the air that says to the world: Look! Love was once mine. I love well. Here is my proof that I paid the price. ― Glennon Doyle Melton, Love Warrior
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