Not interested.

I am all for gender equality and it’s perfectly great to initiate. But if you have to initiate ALL dates (such as with this guy) and all communications (like with this guy), then he clearly isn’t interested. If he wanted, he would.

Also many men don’t like confrontation and often just go along if a woman keeps initiating. But if they are not that interested, they are going along for only that long. Eventually they’ll stop. Sadly I keep hearing about men who are indirect about their lack of interest. So they go along for a few dates and then ghost. Why not just speak up?

I don’t think it’s anything to do with after 30 or after 50. You can meet disinterested men at any age. Trick is to not go for them. Go for men who show interest.

Regardless if you are just looking for casual hookup or serious relationship, pursuing disinterested unavailable men will get you nowhere.

Oh I see you work together. I’d avoid dating (and sexting) people you work with. It creates the whole set of problems