I had 54 years of messed up life between dysfunctional parents & a bad marriage. Had a good career from the degree I got but life itself was on a constant downhill slope.
Both my parents had died by the time I hit that age, my daughter had moved to another state & it was time for me to leave....walk awsy from everything & start life over.
I could have been consumed by past trauma & hurts & bad choices BUT I chose to make a new life with good choices & a new start putting the past behind me. DBT (therapy) & a wonderful therapist taught me skills that I had not learned in life & reinforced skills I already had. I can truly say that even though there are still rough times, these last 16 years have been the best years of my life & my best decision ever was to walk away from that past & leave it in the past....no regrets because what I learned from that past has made what I have now better than ever & I appreciate it more because I know what that past was like. My life is not diminished from that past, it is made better because of what I learned from it