I thought I would bring up this thread again because I see here and there how the use of drugs and/or alcohol is very much a part of a failed relationship.

If you are in a relationship with someone who uses drugs or alcohol it’s important to understand whatever the addiction is IT ALWAYS comes FIRST. People who have problems prefer to ignore the fact that they do have a problem. They often have failed relationships both at work and with friends and partners. Often they blame others and play the poor me card yet they are very much THE problem. Part of blaming others is so that the addict can be in denial. Part of addictions is DENIAL.

People with addiction problems don’t drink or use because you are not good enough (you meaning the non addict). The problem is in the addict themselves.

People that have addiction problems like to be around others that also drink and use drugs. This is part of their denial because others party and go clubbing too. Yet, these individuals lead VERY DYSFUNTIONAL lives. Often they go from one dysfunctional relationship to another. Always wanting the high of love only to end up with one disaster after another.